What To Do When Motivation is Frail
What do I do when I just don’t want to train anymore (or my child doesn’t want to train anymore)?
This is not an uncommon question for martial artists to ask themselves many times throughout their training careers on the road to black belt. As a matter of fact, it is almost certain that your instructor has felt the same way, one time or another, during his or her training. So, what do you do?
First, you need to remember why you started martial arts in the first place. No matter how far you have come since then (maybe you lost weight, reduced stress, or learned to focus better), remember that you must apply constant and ongoing pressure to not only obtain success, but to also stay successful. Do not go back to the way it was before your training.
Second, immediately set an appointment with your instructor and share how you are feeling. There are many different things your instructor or coach can do to help you re-ignite that great feeling you once had. Maybe it is re-evaluating your goals, taking a private lesson or two, or even changing your curriculum. Perhaps he or she may suggest a few classes off or even different classes. Whatever it is, set the appointment and reset your goals. The third step is making sure you have a partner. Either get a friend to sign up or find another student and ask your partner to hold you accountable for coming to class. Finally, last but not least — do not quit.
As Winston Churchill said, “… never, never, never … give in.”